Miscarriage

Miscarriage is one of those things you just don't talk about. It's messy and it's uncomfortable and it's misunderstood. It also happens far too often. It's a moment and it's a process. In some ways it's a woman's secret identity.  

On my blog I want my miscarriages to be anything but my secret identity. Miscarriage simply is part of my identity now, and I want to be able to talk about it in a matter-of-fact way that can encourage and educate others. And by educate, I'm not talking only about the medical facts and statistics when it comes to miscarriage. I'm talking about what a living, breathing woman looks like, feels like, acts like, and thinks like when she's had one or more miscarriages.  

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I have had three miscarriages so far. My first miscarriage was on July 26, 2014, and my second was on November 4, 2014. I successfully carried and gave birth (easily!) to our very healthy and active toddler on November 12, 2015. When we began trying for another child I miscarried a third time on February 17, 2017. 

Here is the story of my miscarriage.

Here is the (shorter) story of my second miscarriage. 

Here are the thoughts of a woman faced with options after multiple miscarriages.

Here's what a woman thinks and feels after trying to process a second miscarriage.

Here are my thoughts and struggles after my third miscarriage. 

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I have also started a series here called miscarriageCARE, designed to inform and educate people about miscarriage, what people who experience miscarriage go through, and how to interact with those who have experienced miscarriage.